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Showing posts with label hope. Show all posts
Showing posts with label hope. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Is It Ever Too Late?

I was recently going through my phone pictures and deleting stuff because my memory was full. I guess it’s a consequence of my document everything philosophy. In the process, I came across this beauty and just couldn’t delete it.


file this under 'too short for this weight'

It’s a screenshot of my electronic health record for a new patient I was seeing about a month ago. Check out the weight and height data: there isn’t a misplaced decimal or typographical error here. As part of my evaluation of her, I asked her why she was here. She said it was because of her weight and wanted to be evaluated "before it got out of hand”.  

She easily won the “understatement of the week” award. Maybe I should have just stood up and said “Elvis has already left the building” and walk away.  But this lady still had hope that her disease could be treated. It’s hard to walk away from that kind of courage--even if the BMI is 70.

Thankfully, I’m not the only one that can’t turn my back on the hopeful penitent.
Yea, and as often as my people repent will I forgive them their trespasses against me. Mosiah 26:30
Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. D&C 58:42
As I read it, this is not a “limited time only” offer.  Joel, a prophet of Judah, foretold some pretty awful things that would  accompany the Second Coming of Jesus Christ. It is interesting to note that, while describing the war and desolation that would precede the great and dreadful day, he also gives us cause for hope. Joel points out that the Lord would be there waiting until the last possible moment for men to turn to him:
. . . rend your heart, and not your garments, and turn unto the Lord your God: for his is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness . . .  Joel 2:13

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Optimism Bias & Hope



I was listening to a radio program on a drive across town a few weeks ago that was about lying (here to listen). The radio hosts interviewed a pair of behavioral science researchers (Harold Sackeim & Ruben Gur) that were studying how people view the world and how honest they were with themselves. Multiple studies have shown that people who see the world exactly as it is--those that are most honest with themselves--tend to be less happy and more depressed. Try as they might, they simply can't see the good in life and are consigned to a existence of half-empty glasses. 
"They see all the pain in the world, how horrible people are with each other and they tell you everything about themselves: what their weakness are, what terrible things they've done to other people. And the problem is, they are right. … We are so vulnerable to being hurt, that we are given the capacity to distort as a gift" (Harold Sackeim).
We've all encountered these pessimists (here and here for related posts), yet fortunately, most people aren't this way. We tend to come into this world with rose-colored glasses.  Humans are instinctively optimistic and hopeful--in spite of the hard reality all around us.  This phenomenon is known as the optimism bias and has been extensively studied by Israeli neuroscientist Tali Sharot at University College London (here for her great TED lecture on this).  
To prove this hypothesis, she asked volunteers to predict their likelihood of having terrible things happen (like getting cancer). The real risk of this is about 30%.  Subjects that guessed their risk to be 50% were pleasantly surprised to learn the truth, and later modified their estimated likelihood of getting cancer to 35% on subsequent questionnaires.  Those that had guessed their risk to be 10% were confronted with the bad news that their estimate was too low. They also changed their answers on subsequent questionnaires, but only from 10% to 11%.  A second example of optimism bias is seen in surveys of divorce lawyers.  Though they know the statistics by heart, they dramatically underestimate their own likelihood of getting divorced (in reality it's 40%--just like everyone else). These kinds of experiments clearly show evidence of the optimism bias. 

In the face of these surprising observations, Dr. Sharot asks a very fascinating question: "Hope isn’t rational, so why are humans wired for it?"  Though Dr. Sharot generally uses the term optimism to describe man's instinctually rosy outlook, it's clear that what she's really describing is an innate sense of hope.The biologist in me sees it as a product of natural selection--hope that causes us to trudge ahead even when the odds seem awful.** The disciple in me sees it as a necessary gift for us to be happy and develop into the beings God wants us to become.

Sharot goes on to demonstrate two consequences of optimism bias.  Firstly, optimism changes subjective reality: the optimistic person feels better about things. Secondly optimism changes objective reality: things actually go better for the optimistic person.  In her words: "Optimism not only relates to success, it leads to success." These scientific observations rapidly cross over into the realm of things spiritual if we substitute hope for optimism. This is the whole basis of Dieter F. Uchtdorf's talk: The Infinite Power of Hope.

I tend to look at scriptures extolling faith, hope and charity and walk away thinking I need to have stronger faith and be a better example of the pure love of Christ that embodies charity.  Hope becomes the ugly step-sister that is easily forgotten in the company of her companions.  But since we are born with hope, we must truly need it. 
And except ye have charity ye can in nowise be saved in the kingdom of God; neither can ye be saved in the kingdom of God if ye have not faith; neither can ye if ye have no hope.  Moroni 7:21
And if you have not faithhope, and charity, you can do nothing.  D&C 18:19 
When I see examples neuroscience research uncovering traces of our divine nature, I find it to be incredibly validating. These studies reinforce the gospel doctrine that hope is an essential ingredient for happiness in this life and exaltation in eternity. However, innate hope, like instinctive faith and love, need to be nourished, developed and cultivated. The rudimentary hope we are born with is simply insufficient to form a foundation on which we can stand so as to engage the atonement of Jesus Christ.

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* The contemporary definition of hope is "to desire or to expect with confidence". “Hope” in Scripture means “a strong and confident expectation" that is imbued with a sense of certainty. Scriptural hope is the proverbial "it's in the bag" version of optimism.

**This instinctive optimism was exploited by the Nazis as they used a small number of SS guards to send 800,000 Jews to die in the gas chambers of Treblinka.  Though confronted with evidences of their impending destruction on every side, they passively submitted and died without resistance.  Never have so few murdered so many. It was systematic and scientific exploitation of man's instinctive hope. 

Thursday, March 7, 2013

To Kvetch or Kvell?

kvetch - /k(ə)veCH/ 
(from Yiddish)
Noun
A person who complains a great deal

Verb
Complain



Oy vey! My last post has me on a serious tangent thinking about the persona and stereotypical portrayal of the chronic kvetch. It's a cool word given that it's both a verb and a noun. Some have argued that it is also an art form (here for a funny video; here for the whole symposium). At the very least, it is learned behavior.  The determinants that create a kvetch are complex and include societal, cultural and family dynamics.

Given my penchant for scriptural analogies to the mundane, I’ve been looking for the kvetch in the scriptures. From the biblical perspective, chronic complaining may be likened to murmuring.  Both Hebrew (luwn - Strong's H3885; to grumble, complain or murmur) and Greek (goggyzō - Strong's G1111; to murmur, mutter or grumble or those who chronically complain) words translated as murmur in the Bible describe the kvetch. Though there are probably many examples of the kvetch in scripture, we really don’t need to look further than the second chapter of The Book of Mormon for a great case study.

Nephi’s family is the best-described family in The Book of Mormon, and it has more than it's share of complainers. Admittedly, they are cast in the light of murmurers rather than complainers, but the difference is merely semantic.  Laman & Lemuel,* Sariah** and even Lehi*** all had their moments of murmuring. Add to these the constant complaining of Nephi's in-laws**** and it is safe to assume that oy vey was a familiar refrain in the Lehite home.

It is also safe to say that the hardships and trials that Nephi went through were at least as difficult as those of Laman and Lemuel.  The Psalm of Nephi (2 Nephi 4:16-35) is one of the most beautiful passages in scripture, and gives great insights into some of Nephi's struggles. 

O wretched man that I am! Yea, my heart sorroweth because of my flesh; my soul grieveth because of mine iniquities. I am encompassed about, because of the temptations and the sins which do so easily beset me. And when I desire to rejoice, my heart groaneth because of my sins . . . why should my heart weep and my soul linger in the valley of sorrow, and my flesh waste away, and my strength slacken, because of mine afflictions? And why should I yield to sin, because of my flesh? Yea, why should I give way to temptations, that the evil one have place in my heart to destroy my peace and afflict my soul? 2 Nephi 4:17-19; 26-27

A common response to this kind of adversity would be to vigorously murmur and complain. It's certainly how Nephi's brothers generally responded. Yet Nephi does not kvetch, but rather he kvellsKvell is another Yiddish verb meaning 'to be extraordinarily pleased; to be bursting with pride.' Consider his Psalm again: 

I know in whom I have trusted. My God hath been my support; he hath led me through mine afflictions in the wilderness; and he hath preserved me upon the waters of the great deep. He hath filled me with his love, even unto the consuming of my flesh . . . Rejoice, O my heart, and cry unto the Lord, and say: O Lord, I will praise thee forever; yea, my soul will rejoice in thee, my God, and the rock of my salvation. 2 Nephi 4:19-21, 30

Where Laman and Lemuel are defined by the kvetch, Nephi is defined by the kvell. His life is that of one who kvells over the things the Lord has done for him. The perfect brightness of hope he taught was not just some idea, but the experience that defined who he was--in spite of all of his adversity. While many of those around him despaired and complained at every turn, Nephi miraculously finds the way to "raise kvell".  What a guy.
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* Laman & Lemuel's murmuring: 1 Nephi 2:11-12; 3:5; 3:31; 4;4; 16:20; 17:17; 17:22; 17:49; 2 Nephi 1:26; 5:3-4
** Sariah's murmuring: 1 Nephi 5:2-3
*** Lehi's murmuring: 1 Nephi 16:20; 16:25
**** Murmuring of the in-laws: 1 Nephi 16:20, 16:35

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Searching For Peace

Denisovich - by Leanne Rutter
I've been reading The Second World War (Antony Beaver) and been astounded at the magnitude of the suffering and hardship of the people that were caught up the the conflict. I had never known how unspeakably evil the likes of Hitler, Stalin and the leaders of the Imperial Army of Japan were until reading the details of their atrocities. It kind of shakes my faith in human decency to realize that these evil few were able to perpetrate the murder of millions with good propaganda and artful manipulation of people that all knew better. It's not exactly light reading, so I took a break by reading an inspiring work by a man that lived through these horrors and came through with his faith intact.

Fifty years ago, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn published One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich, and let the light of day shine on the injustices of the Soviet GULAG (here for a related post). This book was almost impossible for me to put down and it still has me thinking. In the final minutes of his day, Ivan Denisovich chats with his bunkmate, Alyosha the Baptist. In a world of injustice and suffering, Alyosha was the one man in the camp that was at peace; his faith in Christ gave him hope for the world to come. Even though Alyosha's faith, hope and love were evident, his life remained hard--Ivan Denisovich thought it even harder than the other 'zeks'. Yet Ivan Denisovich concluded: "His voice and his eyes left no doubt that he was happy in prison." He may have been the only one.

It is sobering to realize that though we view Jesus Christ as the Prince of Peace, he warned his disciples that they would have tribulation in this life. 
Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. (Matthew 10:34)
 Yet Christ's message promised peace because he had overcome the world and his followers had hope to enter into his rest in eternity.
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world (John 16:33)
Moroni referred to men like Alyosha as "peaceable followers of Christ" (Moroni 7:3). Though his world gave him more than his share of the tribulation that Christ promised, he was still at peace within.  Alyosha's faith, hope and charity allowed him to overcome the trials and disappointments of his world (Moroni 10:20-23).

One of my favorite hymns is Where Can I Turn For Peace (Hymns, 129; lyrics by Emma Lou Thayne; music by Joleen G. Meredith; here and here to hear it). 


Where can I turn for peace,
Where is my solace ,
When other sources cease to make me whole.
When with a wounded heart, anger, or malice,
I draw myself apart, 
Searching my soul
Where, when my aching grows,
Where when I languish,
Where, in my need to know, where can I run?
Where is the quiet hand to calm my anguish?
Who, who can understand
He, only One.
He answers privately,
Reaches my reaching,
In my Gethsemane, Savior and Friend
Gentle the peace he finds for my beseeching.
Constant he is and kind
Love without end


Though peace often seems elusive, we are so blessed to know that through Christ it remains within our grasp. We need not look far to see those that have found it.